problems & spouse
It's simple! You can not "fix" either. The only person who can "fix" is you.
You can share with your spouse how you feel about your words, actions or problems, but you absolutely can not "fix" them. The only way anyone can be "fixed" is for the individual to recognize that there is a problem and then want to change it. This includes any situation in respect of the smallest concerns; as never put the lid back on the toothpaste tube to the much greater concern; such as addictions, depression or any chronically debilitating problems your spouse may be experiencing.
While it may seem that you can absolutely correct your partner's problems (because you love them so much and feel that you are able to see what is good and what is bad for them), no person can be "corrected" by another person. The best thing you can do for yourself and your partner is the focus shift to "fix" your spouse and look more deeply about why you are focusing on improving your partner rather than your own.
So often we look to correct our spouse because he or she is an easier target. By pointing the finger at someone else and focus our attention on our spouse "ugly parts," we can avoid looking at ourselves and we address the areas in our lives that need healing. More than likely, you do not realize you're even doing it. But since this behavior occurs, it is absolutely necessary to recognize it and stop doing it.
To let go of trying to fix your partner and focusing on looking inside, you begin to let go of all the costly efforts of trying to do the impossible: all the cajoling, begging, lectures, begging, manipulation and guilt are released from their life. As a result, instead of these unhealthy efforts and life lock, you are given the opportunity to dive deep within yourself, heal, grow and celebrate all the wonder of you. You get to create and live your life the way you want and parts fulfillment and happiness with your partner along the way Restaurant
