Separation: Learn how to overcome the 5 stages of getting over a breakup

Separation: Learn how to overcome the 5 stages of getting over a breakup


Who ever came out of a relationship with a broken heart? After months or years next to a person it is not easy to face that the relationship is over. This painful period is classified into five stages and it is important to be aware of each. When we know what is happening to us and learn how to overcome each phase, we can alleviate suffering or even speed up the recovery process.

The principle is important to know that each stage has its value, oddly enough. If we learn from each of them, I guarantee you will have increased your self and become a better person.

Phase One - Denial

You are in shock and did not think it would happen. You searched both connect to someone and your connection is gone with the breakdown of the relationship. The brain simply refuses to believe. You think it's not true. Wake up in the middle of the night not knowing what is real and what is dream. Many try a re connection with a loved one in various ways, for carrying that relationship responsibility for their survival.

How to help: face what is true and not humiliate asking the other person back, because later you will regret this attitude. Look for true friends. They will help you realize the truth of what is happening, bringing you back to the ground. Think: ".. If this happened was the choice 'it', I have to accept it, is really not a dream."


Second Stage - Pain

Some people even have physical pain. Very much weeping and sorrow. We can call mourning, because this type of loss also causes feeling of grief. You think you're all alone and that the world could end to end his pain. At this stage we consider ourselves victims of their own lives.


Who ever came out of a relationship with a broken heart? After months or years next to a person it is not easy to face that the relationship is over. This painful period is classified into five stages and it is important to be aware of each. When we know what is happening to us and learn how to overcome each phase, we can alleviate suffering or even speed up the recovery process.

The principle is important to know that each stage has its value, oddly enough. If we learn from each of them, I guarantee you will have increased your self and become a better person.


Stage - Anger

You get to see every detail of what happened and their self-esteem begins to manifest. You can not hold his anger and starts to think, "How could I let someone do this to me."

How to help: people think that anger is a negative feeling, but they are wrong. Anger moves in and has a power of action that can help in making important decisions. Enjoy!

Fourth Phase - Depression

At this stage a deep sadness settles as if we could never be happy and longing begins to appear. It seems that this time we get amnesia and could only remember the good times.

How to help: look for friends to take her back to reality and be strong, based on its intent and in its statement.

Make an energy cleaning in your home. Take photos of you together. Put away from you and if you can, out of the house. Get rid of cards, souvenirs, objects and clothes, all remember your relationship with that person.

Go to the movies, dine out with friends, get busy and fall into bed exhausted at night. Make daily exercise, because the release of endorphins will help a lot in your well-being, reducing their pain.

Fifth Phase - Resilience

"And when the caterpillar thought the world had ended ... She turned Butterfly". You know all that the caterpillar passes to reach the cocoon, how she suffers to get out of it. It is a process of recovery and rebirth. You already feel better, you know you have learned many lessons and will never be the same person. Now you know more about yourself and about life, and know how best to put on their close relationship with someone.

How not to hurt: think you're still recovering, so take care! Do not expose yourself too much, not related by grace with the first person that comes along. Go to places where you feel good and do not go where your friends think you feel good. Do not rush, you will get there and will be very happy in love. Most happy people went through situations, but without them, would not be where they are today. (* By Margareth Signorelli, relationship coach)